STEP 11 We promptly acknowledge our mistakes and make amends when appropriate, but we do not say we are sorry for things we have not done and we do not cover up, analyze, or take responsibility for the shortcomings of others.
In simple terms: I clean up MY side of the street. You clean up YOUR side of the street. If I step on your side of the street, I acknowledge it, make amends, and move on.
If Joe Blow crosses to your side of the street, and you think it’s me, I don’t apologize for Joe’s crossing the street, because I didn’t do it. I may help you find Joe Blow, and help out if I’m feeling generous, but I don’t take responsibility for Joe’s crossing the street.
If my partner crosses, I do not erase the video recorder that shows my partner step onto your side of the street. I don’t justify or rationalize my partner coming onto your side of the street. In short, I don’t take someone else’s responsibility for them.