Sex Therapy

 

Sex therapy is talking about personal and psychological issues that may be stopping me from having and expressing my sexuality.

First things first, though. We have to rule out physical body issues that may be stopping a full sexual expression. Something like arthritis, or diabetes, or low testosterone very well could be stopping an otherwise healthy libido. If these things are ruled out, that is, if there’s nothing going on in my physical body that is stopping me from fully expressing my sexuality, then I’m going to look at my personal psychology of sex.

My “psychology of sex,” is how I view sex, and my expression of it. Is sex “good?” Is it “bad?” Is it an “expression of love?” Or “Is its purpose to exclusively to have an orgasm?” My psychology of sex is my inner belief system that actually may be the thing that’s stopping me from fully expressing my sexuality.

Who sees a sex therapist?

• Couples may come in because one person in the relationship isn’t experiencing fulfillment in their sexual life with their partner…and they want to!
• Individuals, or someone who’s been “addicted” to sex, or who is having or has had “out of control” sexual behaviors could benefit from sex therapy in learning how to express their sexual energy in healthy ways.
• People who’ve paired drugs and sex can learn about their belief systems that may have linked drugs and sex. This could help them unpair the drugs and sex so the person can express their sexuality without the need of drugs.
• Someone who’s been molested a long time ago and is afraid to have sex with someone whom they deeply love could benefit from sex therapy.

 

Sex Counseling

 

The type of sex counseling that I often do is talk about emotionally safer sex, and, physically safer sex. Physically safer sex is along the lines of

• How can I get this or get that?
• Is this safe to do?
• What precautions I can take if I like doing that?

Emotionally safer sex is talking with you about your personal sexual rules and guidelines. For instance, here’s a rule I have (and it may seem funny at first, but…): Rule: Don’t have sex with someone that you aren’t attracted to. How many people out there want to admit…or don’t want to admit…that they’ve had sex with someone they didn’t find attractive. Perhaps it was “pity” sex. Perhaps it was “drunken” sex. What matters is to set up YOUR sex rules and guidelines so that you’re in integrity with yourself and your natural sexual expression.

Please note that I am not a medical doctor.

While I talk about physically safer sex, I’m not a medical doctor. I get my information from medical doctors, medical websites and the like. While I know the symptoms of, and how to get Chlamydia (for example), always consult a doctor for the symptoms and treatment of sexually transmitted infections. If you are concerned about seeing a doc about things because you don’t think they might be “friendly” or open to what your sexual expression is, let’s talk about that. It’s true that some doctors aren’t comfortable talking about sexual expression. It’s also true that some are! And more and more docs ARE becoming aware that thy need to open up the conversation, so they’re learning, too. Talk to a doc.

Sex Coaching

 

The sex coaching that I do is for people who are looking for new techniques or people who are trying new things to more fully explore their sexual expression, either with themselves, or with their partner. Please note, I won’t ever be having sex with you or your partner during any of your sex therapy, counseling or coaching sessions. Yes, I’ve been asked about this, and my answer, 100% of the time, is No. I want to keep our relationship clear of all sexual energy so that I can help you and your partner(s) channel yours to a healthier, fuller expression of your creative and sexual expression.